What did they tell you that you weren't — and how long did you believe them? For me it was that I wasn't academic enough. That I wasn't focused enough. That I wasn't measuring up. They moved me without asking, put me in a box that didn't fit, and called my inability to squeeze into it a personal failing. I believed that for years. More years than I should have. More years than it deserved. So it won't be the same for you. Your verdict will be different. Your box will be a dif